"Dealing with Divorce"

For any individual, divorce is a critical turning point in life. It doens't matter whether it already happened, is happening, or will happen, it affects each person on a different, personal level. I can 100% agree with this statement, as for I am going through a hard time with my parents divorce.

The simple question of why is always asked. Why are my parents splitting? What went wrong? Most relationships come to an end when the parents aren't getting along, aren't connecting on either a personal or sexual level, out of anger, too much fighting, or for the simple fact that they have found another significant other to fall in love with. Most of the time it's the child blaming themselves for their split. However, this is not the case at all. It never has anything to do with the children, it's always the couples probems.

According to Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, "a significant amount of children suffer for many years from psychological and social difficulties associated with continuting and/or new stresses."

Nemours Foundation states, "In a situation like this, your feelings get the best of you. You experience a lot of mixed emotions. You can either me mad, upset, frustrated, or sad. Sometimes you even blame one parent more than the other." On the other hand, it might come as a relieft in the household. Maybe there was a lot of tension going on at home and now this happened for the better. You are always asking yourself question after question.

For a while, situations within the "family" will become more and more difficult. In order to remain as civil as possible, you need to keep the peace at home, keep in touch, be fair, work it out, talk about the future, live your life, and let others help. Don't shut yourself out from everyone in your life. You need all the help you can get!

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